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Men and Romance Part 1: Guardian Men By Dr. Lovegood Guardian lovers have a tendency of coming across as boring. The true gold of their love is often well hidden behind ordinary daily acts of caring and sacrifice. Guardian lovers are likely to be stable, dependable, and predictable. Carrie's Guardian husband died of cancer. He had almost never said he loved her. After he was gone, she discovered that he had spent those last months putting their finances in order so that she and their young girls would never have to worry. She finally realized that taking care of her was his way of showing his love. Guardian lovers usually have a set of high standards of behavior for themselves and often for their loved ones too. If they have been trained or have taught themselves how, they are generally very good at remembering and appropriately commemorating anniversaries, romantic milestones, birthdays, and holidays. Gary is a Supervisor (ESTJ) Guardian. He is proud of the fact that he earns enough money so his wife can stay home with their three children. However, he used to be very critical of his wife's housekeeping, wanting to come home to a restful castle. Then he had to take care of the kids for a week while she was gone. He'd had no idea how difficult her job really was. It was a relief to be able to go back to work, and his criticism dropped sharply. Alex is an Inspector (ISTJ) Guardian. He is nearing 30 and is unmarried. He has been too busy getting his career in order to think much about women. He has never dated much because he's very shy and not particularly popular with the ladies even though he's tall and handsome. He views dating as only a means of finding a mate. Now it's hard for him to find suitable women. However, his cousin recently set him up on a blind date. He's fallen for her head over heels. She's flattered by the attention but is taking things much more slowly. James is a Provider (ESFJ) Guardian. He and his girlfriend met in their senior year of high school and have been dating ever since. They plan to marry once they have graduated from college. James is constantly showering his girlfriend with small gifts, notes, cards, and back and neck massages. Last year, she was drifting away from him, seeming to be more drawn to the strong silent bad boy types. Strangely enough, that problem disappeared once they began playing tennis together. James is a good player and can easily beat her. Now they're playing doubles and having a lot of fun. George is a Protector (ISFJ) Guardian. Because he is so loyal, his biggest problem has been hanging on to relationships long after they are dead. He has felt that he has done all of the sacrificing and most of the work, and this has angered him. He's been assertive at work, but in love he has tended to let his partners take advantage of him. Now he's clearly stating his expectations and hopes. His relationship with his current girlfriend is based on mutual giving and respect. She really appreciates his being hardworking, kind, and faithful. PS: OMFG NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..........................................
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We are lucky that Protectors make up as much as ten percent the population, because their primary interest is in the safety and security of those they care about - their family, their circle of friends, their students, their patients, their boss, their fellow-workers, or their employees. Protectors have an extraordinary sense of loyalty and responsibility in their makeup, and seem fulfilled in the degree they can shield others from the dirt and dangers of the world. Speculating and experimenting do not intrigue Protectors, who prefer to make do with time-honored and time-tested products and procedures rather than change to new. At work Protectors are seldom happy in situations where the rules are constantly changing, or where long-established ways of doing things are not respected. For their part, Protectors value tradition, both in the culture and in their family. Protectors believe deeply in the stability of social ranking conferred by birth, titles, offices, and credentials. And they cherish family history and enjoy caring for family property, from houses to heirlooms. Wanting to be of service to others, Protectors find great satisfaction in assisting the downtrodden, and can deal with disability and neediness in others better than any other type. They are not as outgoing and talkative as the Provider Guardians [ESFJs], and their shyness is often misjudged as stiffness, even coldness, when in truth Protectors are warm-hearted and sympathetic, giving happily of themselves to those in need. Their reserve ought really to be seen as an expression of their sincerity and seriousness of purpose. The most diligent of all the types, Protectors are willing to work long, hard hours quietly doing all the thankless jobs that others manage to avoid. Protectors are quite happy working alone; in fact, in positions of authority they may try to do everything themselves rather than direct others to get the job done. Thoroughness and frugality are also virtues for them. When Protectors undertake a task, they will complete it if humanly possible. They also know better than any other type the value of a dollar, and they abhor the squandering or misuse of money. To save, to put something aside against an unpredictable future, to prepare for emergencies-these are actions near and dear to the Protector's heart. For all these reasons, Protectors are frequently overworked, just as they are frequently misunderstood and undervalued. Their contributions, and also their economies, are often taken for granted, and they rarely get the gratitude they deserve. P.S I think i did this kind of test before..hm....
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Interaction. Woops, so sorry for the late update for 2nd part. I’ve been really busy…………………………..slacking. Ok, onto more serious stuff. Yes. SERIOUS SHIT DUDES and DUDETTES. Let’s see, interaction. I’m a very shy person. (I can already imagine some of you sniggering after u read that) Thus, interaction is something, well, I’m not really good at. I can’t do small talk for nuts, even if you gave me the most expensive nuts, I still wouldn’t be able to. I know myself. YET, ALL OF US(non-eccentric, sane and have EQ) know that this is something VERY important in life. To get information, to get a job, a sponsor, a date and even get laid. Some of us are like totally great at bullshi…I mean small talking, but there also those few(like myself) who can’t do it. Why? Well for one reason that I can think of is because…we’re shy. Another is, we just can’t be fu..bothered to put in effort to find something to talk about. It does, well for me, take effort to find something to talk about. If the first topic fails, move on, and on…and on….if the fellow really won’t budge, I say move on! Ahahaha. Easier said than done. Sometimes I do wonder if I’m really that shy that’s why I suck at small talk OR!, I’m just too worried about how the other party would Judge me. You know, it only takes a word…to wreck a relationship that took years to build?...yeah I knew you already knew that. Great. Yeah, perhaps.. I don’t know, no way to prove it. FYP for you Sociologists-to-be out there. Sigh. A close friend asked me this question: How is it possible that TWO people who are supposedly close together(close like..super close..like their thread of closeness is barely a micro-meter long close) would run out of things to talk about? I think, I kind of remember what my initial response was. It was something like: How can that be? I’m sure you both can talk about a lot of things, the weather….that cute cat u just passed, how that dude in front of u looks like shit… or… songs that you know that have a memory(good or bad) attached to it. I think I never really thought of what I said before saying it that time. Another friend of mine told me today that it is possible. Perhaps, u see each other so often, that sometimes there’s really not much to talk about except, to just enjoy each other’s company(in this entire context, 2 people, I mean a guy and a girl k?). :/ I just thought of another reason why some people suck at small talk, they are just not confident of themselves. Like me! I guess we’re just not confident of what we say. We’re afraid it might sound stupid. Or immature or…”HOW THE HELL CUD U EVEN THINK OF SUCH A THING TO SAY?” kind of reaction. :/ Lol… Ok…hm..i think that’s all I can say right now. =[ I have no idea what song I’m listening to right now. I’m on radio. LOL.
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